tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post5882276589643134869..comments2024-03-26T18:32:50.307-05:00Comments on Taking the Long Way Home: Appreciation: I am enoughWendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comBlogger70125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-14460428986677981002015-05-21T08:11:46.797-05:002015-05-21T08:11:46.797-05:00I'm sorry you have to go through this. But non...I'm sorry you have to go through this. But none of that makes you a failure as a mom. In fact, reading this, I think you're a great mom. I also have two sons, one of whom has ADHD and presents plenty of challenges. I worry about him getting older and getting into trouble. He's only 10 now. Many adults don't understand why he behaves how he does and don't even try to hide their dislike for him. They think he acts that way on purpose. The one benefit for me is that I'm very understanding of other kids with challenges - and the suffering their parents go through. You sound like a great mom to me. Alison @ racingtaleshttp://racingtales.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-71798562710178620422015-05-20T21:26:58.401-05:002015-05-20T21:26:58.401-05:00Well, we need to plan that glass of wine...how lon...Well, we need to plan that glass of wine...how long are you going to be in town this summer?Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-73679661568289847292015-05-20T19:21:23.887-05:002015-05-20T19:21:23.887-05:00Late to the party..... (sorry, I have been up to m...Late to the party..... (sorry, I have been up to my eye balls in graduation "stuff"). I wish I could give you a big hug (over a big glass of wine) in person. Kids are tough to figure out, especially once they hit the teen years. I often wonder if kids try to challenge their parents as a means to level the field....they don't want to see their parents fail per se, but they want to see their parents' imperfections...to be reassured that their parents aren't "perfect" so it's OK that they aren't "perfect" either (????). It's hard to keep your composure when they are beating us down, not knowing if we should let them see how strong we really are, or if we should just be real and let them see the hurt. Catch-22, huh! You have a gut for a reason, and it's always best to follow what your gut is telling you to do. You are perfect in being real, keep your chin up! ((hugs))Kim at Running on the Flyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03028968906430207641noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-6707495651930881892015-05-20T18:55:56.841-05:002015-05-20T18:55:56.841-05:00I'm always here...if you need to cry, laugh, v...I'm always here...if you need to cry, laugh, vent, scream, whatever. I empathize, and had a nice cry in the shower just tonight...xoxo We're in this. Together. Michelle @ www.movinitwithmichelle.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04819142037609485717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-23692034920576193422015-05-20T17:09:03.475-05:002015-05-20T17:09:03.475-05:00Raising teenagers has shook my self confidence lik...Raising teenagers has shook my self confidence like nothing else in a long time! I know you understand. We're in this together.Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-61675511961022445232015-05-20T17:08:28.992-05:002015-05-20T17:08:28.992-05:00I struggled with sharing this because it was so pe...I struggled with sharing this because it was so personal, but I think that it illustrates why we need to have more than just our role as mom. We need to feel that we are enough, and running helps me achieve that.Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-31021027839281438662015-05-20T17:07:28.623-05:002015-05-20T17:07:28.623-05:00Thank you! Lots of ups and downs with motherhood--...Thank you! Lots of ups and downs with motherhood--I wouldn't trade it for the world, but I sure am glad I have running to get me through the tough times!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-5069418977888515832015-05-20T17:03:40.100-05:002015-05-20T17:03:40.100-05:00I keep thinking that, that I'm the safe one, j...I keep thinking that, that I'm the safe one, just like with toddlers, they test you because they know you aren't going anywhere. It's so very similar! I do remind myself that, but of course, some days are better than others. Thanks so much for your kind words and thoughtfulness. I really appreciate it.Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-65950297680896788472015-05-20T16:22:05.193-05:002015-05-20T16:22:05.193-05:00I hope you can hang on to the thought that his neg...I hope you can hang on to the thought that his negativity is not ever-present. As hard as it is to deal with it, believe me, I know it is, the fact that he does appreciate you and allows himself to show it at times is a sign. You are perhaps the safest person to push to the limit. It's a test to see if you will stop loving him if he goes too far. And, despite the rawness and the pain and hurt, of course you won't. <br />Along with all the others here, I send you hugs and love. I hope the day he "sees the light" is sooner rather than later. Whenever it happens, you will be there with open arms. Connie Ciampanelli - RIhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14199554842449972940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-79367754582186298382015-05-20T14:13:08.878-05:002015-05-20T14:13:08.878-05:00Love this post...I struggled with an eloquent resp...Love this post...I struggled with an eloquent response, but have been feeling less than enough myself these days in many areas. Maybe that's why this hit me so hard.<br />You are more than enough my friend...I hope you know how special you are. xoxoMichelle @ www.movinitwithmichelle.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04819142037609485717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-87332953325956474832015-05-20T12:36:41.287-05:002015-05-20T12:36:41.287-05:00What a beautifully vulnerable post; thank you for ...What a beautifully vulnerable post; thank you for sharing this story with us. Hang in there! As a runner, I can relate to the freedom and confidence that it provides. <3Ericahttp://musingsbythebay.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-49173712874327282512015-05-20T12:04:47.918-05:002015-05-20T12:04:47.918-05:00I agree with what Tricia said above. I see you as ...I agree with what Tricia said above. I see you as a strong woman and mom. I am a new mom and I'm already fearful for the teenage days but just know that it's a phase and it will pass. YOU ARE ENOUGH! Lindsay @ Fit & Awesomehttp://fitandawesome.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-4023914622391817732015-05-20T10:54:54.414-05:002015-05-20T10:54:54.414-05:00Great timing for this topic, Deb!Great timing for this topic, Deb!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-24159959869226798992015-05-20T10:54:39.537-05:002015-05-20T10:54:39.537-05:00Well, thanks for all that! You make me feel good! ...Well, thanks for all that! You make me feel good! I'm glad I have so much good in my life to offset what's happening with my son right now. I"ll tell you, parenting is not for the weak!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-15885940013084137002015-05-20T10:26:30.094-05:002015-05-20T10:26:30.094-05:00You are enough, and don't forget it! It will ...You are enough, and don't forget it! It will get easier as your son matures and realizes (and is willing to admit) all that you do for him. Hang in there!<br /><br />Thank you for linking up!Debbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15673587906852568968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-4756503564614925852015-05-20T10:06:13.501-05:002015-05-20T10:06:13.501-05:00I read this an struggle to understand. Wendy I ma...I read this an struggle to understand. Wendy I may be on the other side of the fence but I see.......a strong woman, a dedicated mother, a kind person, a fierce runner, a confident mind, smart, unique, fun, lovable gosh I could go on and on. It may just be words but I hope I lift you up today. I know the struggle is real with your family but I promise later when you look back this is such a short amount of time in your life and I do fully believe your boys will come around. Keep you head above water your not sinking yet! ;) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12325341013716918783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-57632321785320274392015-05-20T10:05:33.803-05:002015-05-20T10:05:33.803-05:00I read this an struggle to understand. Wendy I ma...I read this an struggle to understand. Wendy I may be on the other side of the fence but I see.......a strong woman, a dedicated mother, a kind person, a fierce runner, a confident mind, smart, unique, fun, lovable gosh I could go on and on. It may just be words but I hope I lift you up today. I know the struggle is real with your family but I promise later when you look back this is such a short amount of time in your life and I do fully believe your boys will come around. Keep you head above water your not sinking yet! ;) Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12325341013716918783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-65113955515512724572015-05-20T09:15:48.258-05:002015-05-20T09:15:48.258-05:00It's so nice to know that I"m not alone. ...It's so nice to know that I"m not alone. It's so hard!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-85068715020005782792015-05-20T08:51:34.115-05:002015-05-20T08:51:34.115-05:00Hugs mama! Motherhood is SO SO SO hard!! You are...Hugs mama! Motherhood is SO SO SO hard!! You are not alone. YOU ARE ENOUGH!! :) xoxoRachel @RunningRachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12586534615549101906noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-45147239396813873542015-05-20T07:42:37.520-05:002015-05-20T07:42:37.520-05:00It's just really great to know that I'm no...It's just really great to know that I'm not alone; that other moms are going through this as well. I'm just hanging on for the ride...Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-75581012871503994462015-05-20T07:41:50.354-05:002015-05-20T07:41:50.354-05:00Thanks! It's really a tough challenge...runnin...Thanks! It's really a tough challenge...running a marathon, definitely easier than raising teenagers!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-60249585101676708612015-05-20T07:05:44.603-05:002015-05-20T07:05:44.603-05:00Oh my gosh, I'm so grateful that you opened up...Oh my gosh, I'm so grateful that you opened up about this! My kids have been challenging too. I know that punching bag feeling. And being told you suck as a parent really hurts. I try to remember that I am being the best parent I know how to be, and hoping that some day they will appreciate that, even if they disagree with the choices we made. I hope you have support as you go through this and I do hope he comes around soon! Cocohttp://got2run4me.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-67073769704178703912015-05-20T06:40:17.560-05:002015-05-20T06:40:17.560-05:00Oh man... I'm so sorry to hear the frustration...Oh man... I'm so sorry to hear the frustration. I work in youth ministry with kids that age & they definitely get that 'attitude' & its tough to get through. You're doing a great job though giving space, but being aware of the situation. Hang in there momma!Rebecca Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03965781380511208862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-3460950992889609892015-05-20T06:27:21.900-05:002015-05-20T06:27:21.900-05:00It's like swimming and just keeping your head ...It's like swimming and just keeping your head above water....thanks Sue. We're all in this together.Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-87701593172480091672015-05-20T06:26:33.854-05:002015-05-20T06:26:33.854-05:00I agree with you 100%--we both see it in our jobs....I agree with you 100%--we both see it in our jobs. I've always been the "mean" mom, the tough one. But everything goes out the window when you have a rebellious teen. People that I've talked with, who were troubled teens but are now productive adults, have all told me that they are grateful their moms were tough on them. Even though they hated it at the time. I take that advice to heart.Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.com