tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post8299349228682688240..comments2024-03-26T18:32:50.307-05:00Comments on Taking the Long Way Home: We Need to TalkWendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-88876889191352391352020-06-08T16:31:48.386-05:002020-06-08T16:31:48.386-05:00Thanks Allie, for reading and for organizing the g...Thanks Allie, for reading and for organizing the group of bloggers to use our platforms for good. Let's keep talking!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-22423722735596699882020-06-08T10:54:41.392-05:002020-06-08T10:54:41.392-05:00You know I love this Wendy and I'm so glad you...You know I love this Wendy and I'm so glad you're sharing it and spreading GOOD information and intelligent thoughts and reflections. I have read White Fragility and it's a great place for white people to check themselves. We're not talking about overt racism but racism is sneaky and can be much smaller, which DiAngelo has a great way of pointing out. I also saw Just Mercy and, although it was infuriating at times, it was a great movie. As you know, I just finished my first year of grad school pursuing a license in clinical mental health counseling so I can advocate and education and continue to work for social justice on the inside :-) Great work!VITAtrain4lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16400685244302312466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-74674873547116936282020-06-07T14:13:43.084-05:002020-06-07T14:13:43.084-05:00Got it. Thank you! <3Got it. Thank you! <3Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-28899502778454016352020-06-07T12:37:48.098-05:002020-06-07T12:37:48.098-05:00Beautifully said. For me the friend line is harder...Beautifully said. For me the friend line is harder, but acquaintances to share vile things? They can go kick rocks. I don't need that in my feed. I just had a conversation with a social group that has gone quiet due to us realizing we didn't have that much in common and being unable to politely discuss current events. Even if I agree with you, the caps and the name calling need to stop.<br />White Fragility was such a good read. Going to FB message you a flyer that's up in my neighborhood with some other great resources.TravellingCarihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18191515720716670681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-83964056837221383052020-06-06T16:30:52.778-05:002020-06-06T16:30:52.778-05:00Thank you!Thank you!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-29483315011740008402020-06-06T16:30:17.632-05:002020-06-06T16:30:17.632-05:00Back at you!Back at you!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-69664117012189384392020-06-06T12:58:53.968-05:002020-06-06T12:58:53.968-05:00I love drink coffee, two or three times a day....d...I love drink coffee, two or three times a day....drink while reading.<br />Your thoughts are wonderful, I read twice to make me better understanding. My feeling with you.<br /><br />Have a great day.Tanza Erlambanghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02017133397362193406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-26608206059330277422020-06-06T08:02:02.931-05:002020-06-06T08:02:02.931-05:00Big Hugs Big Hugs The Padrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07488266642564760406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-53449011703837245232020-06-06T06:02:19.373-05:002020-06-06T06:02:19.373-05:00You're doing more than I have and certainly mo...You're doing more than I have and certainly more than most people! Thank you for all you're doing. Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-72665720693352342332020-06-06T06:00:47.261-05:002020-06-06T06:00:47.261-05:00I can only imagine what people across the globe ar...I can only imagine what people across the globe are thinking of the situation in the US right now. Just know that many of us are trying to make things better.Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-37313535268940065692020-06-06T05:59:22.222-05:002020-06-06T05:59:22.222-05:00Let me know what you think!Let me know what you think!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-54916223416973029702020-06-06T05:05:22.637-05:002020-06-06T05:05:22.637-05:00Thank you for sharing this. I've been shocked ...Thank you for sharing this. I've been shocked by two friends who have pursued the "All Lives Matter" thing but fortunately others have educated them before I've had to. But what does one do? I've got White Fragility on my wishlist but have "Why I've Stopped Talking to White People About Race" and "The Good Immigrant UK" ready to go and just read "Don't Touch My Hair" which taught me a lot. Personally I've given to two charities providing bail to black people in the US (one women, one in Birmingham, AL) and to Black Lives Matter UK, dedicated my photos a day to showing the memorials to Ahmaud Arbery and George Floyd that we have here, set up a scheme to have two friends publish reviews of the books around anti-racism they read in June and July on my blog to spread the word, friended the woman running the Birmingham fund and reached out to a black client who does good things locally to see how I can help, fund and amplify his cause. Not virtue-signalling, just sharing a few things one can do. LyzzyBeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16398604923871095647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-20852973188053264252020-06-06T01:42:17.643-05:002020-06-06T01:42:17.643-05:00Thank you for this post! I read all the comments, ...Thank you for this post! I read all the comments, too. It's really an eye-openener for me and helps me to understand what's going on in the US better.<br />I hope this will be the chapter in history where things change for the better. <br />Keep up the good work, Wendy! It takes people like you and all the commenters here!Catrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05813581612058054899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-82685421889279124962020-06-05T18:28:17.805-05:002020-06-05T18:28:17.805-05:00I'm definitely with you there. I'm sad tha...I'm definitely with you there. I'm sad that nothing seems to have changed and that opportunists are hijacking this cause. I'm having the same problem as you with friends/acquaintances that I thought better of--I truly cannot wrap my mind around the disconnect of the person they are to me versus the person that they support. It's been so, so disheartening. I'm glad that my workplace is super diverse and supportive though (as it should be)!<br /><br />I'm planning to watch Just Mercy this weekend!Farrahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12024985135359707913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-42362696969376688802020-06-05T17:00:30.767-05:002020-06-05T17:00:30.767-05:00Is it out of our lane? I think we need to pay spec...Is it out of our lane? I think we need to pay special attention to our message. I'm so glad this is happening right now!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-27991324225851559762020-06-05T16:52:34.548-05:002020-06-05T16:52:34.548-05:00Thank you for this. Sometimes, it's good to ju...Thank you for this. Sometimes, it's good to just keep giving voice to the issues, even if it's out of our lane. I watched Just Mercy last night, and I started 13th. I want to watch Selma as well. <br /><br />My husband and I are having some good conversations about prison labor and that whole industry - it's something I knew nothing about. I'm also making myself available to friends who never voted before or who want to change how they vote, so that they feel supported at the polls. It has never been more important.<br /><br /><3 to you. Runs With Pugshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03171128110788554302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-59454468944503876282020-06-05T16:33:45.394-05:002020-06-05T16:33:45.394-05:00No worries! Thank you for reading!No worries! Thank you for reading!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-56580202932099415282020-06-05T16:33:31.642-05:002020-06-05T16:33:31.642-05:00I feel exactly as you do. What is amazing to me is...I feel exactly as you do. What is amazing to me is that the majority of the friends from my childhood are the very ones who are posting the terrible comments. I grew up with these people! What happened? Oh, they stayed in my hometown. I sure wasn't raised like that.Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-76863966095538497532020-06-05T16:31:30.080-05:002020-06-05T16:31:30.080-05:00I will look for that book! Thank you for the recom...I will look for that book! Thank you for the recommendation!Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-44635595821291051412020-06-05T16:30:56.217-05:002020-06-05T16:30:56.217-05:00I don't have a problem calling people out on t...I don't have a problem calling people out on their racist comments. I have unfriended many people on FB because of things they've said or posted. It's really appalling. It doesn't feel good to confront people but the guilt I feel when I don't makes me complicit in their racism. I've said it before, but I wouldn't be the good nurse that I pride myself on if I harbored those feelings and thoughts. I can't think that way and I can't be around people who do.Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-24091108982629167682020-06-05T16:21:55.380-05:002020-06-05T16:21:55.380-05:00Isn't it interesting how this all happened at ...Isn't it interesting how this all happened at once? I said it with COVID and I'll say it now after George Floyd, we are due for a reset. The focus on greed all at the cost of the poor and disadvanged needs to change. I hope we all keep the conversation going. I feel fortunate to work in my job as a PNP because my contact with patients of all backgrounds keeps me in check with what is happening. Wendy at Taking the Long Way Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09934786207724059919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-28015349111048743502020-06-05T16:21:18.296-05:002020-06-05T16:21:18.296-05:00Ugh sorry for the typos and misspellings! Ugh sorry for the typos and misspellings! kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03376140192117375970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-10436010955834235072020-06-05T16:20:31.739-05:002020-06-05T16:20:31.739-05:00Thank you Wendy for sharing! We plan to Watch Just...Thank you Wendy for sharing! We plan to Watch Just Mercy this weekend as a family. And i just got the book “so you want to talk about race” which my friend said was excellent. Speaking of friends and family...There are “friends” i have deleted from Facebook because not matter what I say or tell them they will never listen. I am with my friends i truely want in my life and care for...i have having thought tough conversations. I know it is not going to be easy and they might decide to drop me and that would be ok because at least i would know that I spoke up and called them out and maybe one they will see that they are wrong and remember me. (Runningkelly)kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03376140192117375970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-4977817554670307302020-06-05T15:41:12.421-05:002020-06-05T15:41:12.421-05:00Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I plan to read t...Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I plan to read that book and Just Mercy is on the watch list for this weekend. Another super good read (although very hard) is The Son will Shine Again. destination...........unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11551310618151391694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2647157930116406632.post-33016089152206921012020-06-05T15:05:17.572-05:002020-06-05T15:05:17.572-05:00THANK YOU Wendy!
I'm trying to get better at c...THANK YOU Wendy!<br />I'm trying to get better at conversations w/family & friends who are negative, defensive, or racist. I plan out potential topics of conversation, don't respond to bait, delete threads. I desire kind, neutral conversations, keeping the communication open. <br />I also need to move beyond reading & reflecting, and take action. Am I just another not-directly-harmful white person? My passiveness and kind thoughts don't really help, perhaps they just make me feel better. macboymomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05707941820504861745noreply@blogger.com